Passing through the Valley
“Blessed are those whose strength is in You, whose hearts are set on pilgrimage. As they pass through the Valley of Baka, they make it a place of springs; the autumn rains also cover it with pools. They go from strength to strength, till each appears before God in Zion.” Psalm 84:5-7
The Valley of Baka in Psalms is also known as the valley of weeping. We can all likely look to a time when we experienced a difficult, dark time. Maybe we encountered hardship and it seemed as if we were in a dark valley of grief or sorrow that weighed us down and seemed to last longer than we had strength to endure.
It’s one thing to go through it personally, but ask any parent who has watched their son or daughter go through hard things and they’ll tell you, it’s not only difficult, it’s downright painful. We want to fix it. We want to bring it to a quick end. We want to make everything okay and get things “back to normal”, yet, we’re powerless to do it.
As parents, the valley experience of our children calls us to a deep and abiding faith in Jesus. It calls us to trust Him more than we can see in front of us. It calls us to rely on His strength and Sovereignty over our own power and ingenuity. It asks us to relinquish our parental ‘controls’ and trust in the One Who parents them best. The valley is a tough place to be, that’s certain. And, as parents, we can either be the voice of spiritual encouragement that points our son or daughter to Jesus, or a detractor that pulls their focus to their current situation and supports their despair.
But Psalm 84 gives us a beautiful, powerful picture of the valley as a place of victory, not defeat. Yes, the Psalmist writes about being in the valley of weeping, but he says, “Blessed are those whose strength is in You, whose hearts are set on pilgrimage.” Blessed. It’s the Hebrew word “eser” and it means “happiness, or how happy” (1). Our sons and daughters can experience deep happiness and joy, in spite of the valley experience if they’re focused on Jesus! They may be in the valley, but if they’re still pursuing Jesus, they are blessed!! Their location and their situation do not determine their joy. Jesus is joy!! That’s a lesson we should all be reminded of daily.
The second thing to remember is that the valley isn’t their destination, it’s just a part of the journey. And the valley shouldn’t be the focus of their heart, the passage to Jesus should be their focus! The joy is generated and determined by the Source of their strength. The One who walks every step of the way with them through the valley and the One in whose Presence they long to stand. The journey is one of reliance on Jesus and trust in His Presence and leading.
Not only will the valley bring blessings, but it can become a place of refreshing. Imagine that! A valley of weeping becomes a journey of refreshing?! “As they pass through the Valley of Baka, they make it a place of springs; the autumn rains also cover it with pools.” The word “spring” in Hebrew is the word “mayan” and it means "fountain or source of satisfaction” (2). Psalm 87:7 gives us another perspective on Who and what that fountain represents, “All my fountains are in You.” In other words, all of my blessings and Source of joy, delight and pleasure are in You, Lord. The valley doesn’t supply the source of satisfaction, the believer traveling the valley does through his full reliance on Christ and his delight in His presence. So, if our sons and daughters are in the valley, they can make it a place bubbling with delight, joy and pleasure if they remain focused on and grounded in the Lord. Blessings bubbling over, generatd by the Source of Life.
Then, there are the autumn rains. To some that may seem odd, but in Israel, the hot dry summer gives way to autumn rain that softens the soil and makes it pliable, easily broken up for cultivation and planting. It creates fertile ground- and isn’t that what God seeks to create in our hearts? The autumn rains in the valley of weeping can soften hearts and make them ready to receive the Word and be fruitful. The springs and fountains of delight, pleasure, and joy along with the refreshing, nourishing rains that soften the hardened ground make the trek through the valley a journey from strength to strength. This word, strength, is “hayil” in Hebrew and it means “resources, ability, and might” (3). Do you see? God uses the valley to bring joy in Him- not generated by our circumstances. He brings delight, not in the location, but in His Presence. He brings growth because of the believer’s focus and reliance on Him, not on the situation or location. He draws the traveler to Himself and in doing so, the situation and location become secondary.
Finally, the destination of walking through the valley is the anticipation of standing before God, in His presence. Psalm 16:11 says, “You make known to me the path of life; You will fill me with joy in Your Presence, with eternal pleasures at Your right hand.” If our heart is set on pilgrimage to God’s presence and Jesus is our Guide and Companion, there is strength and joy in the journey because we know the valley isn’t the destination, nor does it hold what we’re seeking, and there is so much more that awaits us. We will ALL stand before the Lord, whether we intend that as our destination or not. It is determined beforehand for us.
How will we pray for our sons and daughters in their faith journey? Will we pray the valley is short and the weeping is minimal? That’s likely and why wouldn’t we? God understands our parent-heart well. But, maybe we should pray that the focus of our son or daughter is Jesus alone and that He would be their source of joy, delight and strength. And maybe, just maybe, we should pray for autumn rains that soften the ground of their hearts so they can receive the Word of God and bear fruit. Perhaps we should pray that their journey is not just a short one, but is one of moving from strength to strength until they appear before God in Zion and that ultimately, they would hear, “Well done, my good and faithful servant.”
Let’s pray that the valley is a place of blessing and growth and that if He wills, the Lord would allow us a window on all of it while we lift our sons and daughters in prayer. There are features of the valley experience that can lead us and our sons and daughters to a stronger, more certain faith. And yes, even deep joy. That’s how we can pray effectively and fervently for their journey.
Pray without ceasing.
1. H835 - 'ešer - Strong's Hebrew Lexicon (kjv). Retrieved from https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/h835/kjv/wlc/0-1/
2. H4599 - maʿyān - Strong's Hebrew Lexicon (niv). Retrieved from https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/h4599/niv/wlc/0-1/
3. H2428 - ḥayil - Strong's Hebrew Lexicon (niv). Retrieved from https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/h2428/niv/wlc/0-1/
Burdens and Remedies
Isaiah 53:4-6
Surely he took up our pain
and bore our suffering,
yet we considered him punished by God,
stricken by him, and afflicted.
But he was pierced for our transgressions,
he was crushed for our iniquities;
the punishment that brought us peace was on him,
and by his wounds we are healed.
We all, like sheep, have gone astray,
each of us has turned to our own way;
and the Lord has laid on him
the iniquity of us all.
Whatever you’re carrying today, Jesus already bore the weight of it all on the cross. Think about that… all of the pain, sorrow, grief, sin… all of it from the beginning of time to the very end- He saw it, He knew it, He carried it to the cross, so that in His suffering, our suffering is never out of His control, but it’s present to remind us we are called to be like Christ.
The picture above is profound. The entire scene seems to be overlaid with a fingerprint. There is no part of the man’s experience that isn’t touched by it. It’s representative of our lives. God’s hand is all over everything we face, even the dark, difficult, painful days are not out of God’s control and mediation. His hand is all over anything we might face and He meters what we must endure. It is all to draw us closer to Him and make us more like Christ.
So whatever you’re facing today, He knew it before you faced it and He’s already got the remedy. Little sheep, listen to your Shepherd. Follow Him closely, lean into Him, trust Him. Don’t turn to your own way and don’t grow bitter. There is safety in the fold of Jesus. Find your place there.
There is no sorrow too heavy that He cannot carry it. Jesus is a Man of sorrows, He understands.
There is no grief too deep He cannot reach it. He is acquainted with grief. Let Jesus be your comfort.
There is no pain too intense He cannot bear it. Let Him be a balm to your hurting heart.
There is no darkness too great He cannot breach it. Look to the Light of the World to bring light to the darkness.
El-Roi- the God who sees
Jehovah-Jireh- the God who provides
Jehovah-Rapha- the God who heals
Jesus- the God who saves
Maybe you’re praying for a prodigal and the sorrow, grief, pain and darkness are overwhelming. God is not overwhelmed. He sees. He knows. He is working. Even if you cannot see it, trust Him. He is Sovereign and He loves your precious prodigal more than you ever could. He wants all to come to repentance. Pray that it would be so!
Let’s pray that our sons and daughters find their safety and identity in Christ. Pray that they would run to Him, not away from Him. Pray that their hearts would be drawn to the One who already endured everything and carefully sifts what will touch their lives because nothing is out of His control.
Pray without ceasing.
The Blessing and Gift of Grief
Grief is heavy.
It’s an experience we would rather avoid.
When we encounter others who are grieving, we’re often at a loss for words. We’re uncomfortable with the heaviness and we’re ill-equipped to help others handle their loss. It’s deeply personal and life-altering. We don’t know how to make it better or relieve the pain… we can’t.
Grief is hard.
Many of us have encountered loss and endured grief in our lives. As parents, we do our best to shield our children from that pain, yet, we can’t fully protect them from it. Jesus tells us in John 16:33, ““I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
Grief will come. It will hurt. It doesn’t just bruise you, it’s an amputation that leaves you forever changed. It will disorient you and you’ll be convinced that it will suffocate you.
Psalm 31:9 “Be merciful to me, LORD, for I am in distress; my eyes grow weak with sorrow, my soul and body with grief.” (NIV)
But if you lean in closely, you will hear the Lord whisper. You may feel like you live in the shadows, but they are the shadows of His wings, covering you until you’re ready for anything else.
Psalm 91:1-2, 4 “Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the LORD, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.” (NIV)
Grief means that vivid memories may bring streams of tears or an ache so deep that we weep at the pain. But God assures us that collects each one of our tears and records the reason for the pain and grief…He doesn’t forget.
Psalm 56:8 “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.” (NLT)
And one day, God tells us He will wipe away every tear and we’ll no longer grieve. Death and loss will be no more.
Revelation 21:4 “‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”” (NIV)
And all the while, if we’re willing, if we trust Him, we will grow deeper in our understanding of His heart.
Grief can be a gift because it shakes us out of a false sense of comfort and belonging here in this world. Suddenly we’re confronted with everything not being okay. We are shaken by the pain that greets us each morning and sticks with us through each day. We are cognizant of something beyond this life…and the eternity that God placed in our hearts suddenly becomes real, tangible and stirs a longing unlike anything we’ve ever felt before (Ecc. 3:11). If we’re willing, it can be the thing that draws us so much deeper into a walk with the Lord. He gives the peace that passes understanding (Phil 4:7). He gives strength for today and bright hope for tomorrow. He gives and will give more. God doesn’t do this to deprive us, He does this to demonstrate how much more waits for us…if we trust Him (Eph. 3:18-20). He will restore our losses and comfort our broken hearts.
Personally speaking, without the deep grief I’ve endured, I don’t know that I would long for heaven. Without grief I don’t know that I would understand the deep, abiding comfort of my Savior. Without grief, I would still be enjoying all that life has to offer with little thought to my eternity. But now, eternity is so real, life is so fleeting, my love for God is deeper and more vibrant than before I tasted grief and loss.
Grief can be a gift if we trust the Lord enough to let Him walk us through it. He’s walked that path. He knows grief and He longs to walk alongside us as we lean into Him.
Isaiah 53:3-5 “He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief; and as one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not. Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; yet we esteemed him stricken, smitten by God, and afflicted. But he was pierced for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities; upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with his wounds we are healed.” (ESV)
Jesus understands our grief. He bore it on the cross. Go to Him, fall at His feet. Pour out your heart and rest in His shadow. He is always enough. And when you begin to see the glimmer of life again and you begin to breathe again, you’ll see that the gift of grief is held by the nail-scarred hands of the Savior who loves you so. Cling tightly.
Pray without ceasing.