A willingness to pray “God, do what You must.”
If you’re a parent, you’re a ‘fixer’. It’s what we do. Whatever the situation, we’re always at-the-ready to find a solution, make it better, fix what is broken or soothe what is hurt. We hate to see our kids in pain or dealing with hardship. Our hearts hurt to know that they grieve or struggle. When we see it, we jump to try and fix it.
Yet, sometimes we can’t fix it. It’s not that we don’t want to, it’s that we’re unable to. That’s a hard place to be, isn’t it? When our son or daughter is going through a hard time, it’s difficult to watch and we want, more than anything, to make it better. But sometimes it’s beyond our ability. And if our son or daughter is running from God, we can’t change their heart or bring repentance. That’s something only God can do. No matter how much we desire it, we cannot ‘will’ them to change.
We become like the little child, bringing the much-loved broken toy to our Father saying ‘fix it’, ‘heal it’, ‘make it better’. But sometimes the situation and damage requires intervention that is difficult to watch and painful to endure. We don’t want our son or daughter going through pain- we’ve spent our lives working to spare them from it! We don’t want to see things get worse- our entire prayer directive has been that it would be made better.
It’s akin to someone needing a heart transplant. The hope for life and health lie in getting a new heart. But it’s not that easy. First, a new heart must come from a donor, someone who lost their life and was willing to donate their organ to be a life-saving opportunity for someone who is dying. Then, the patient must be willing to undergo extensive transplant surgery. They’re surgically opened up and their old heart is removed and the new one is put in place. It is radical, painful, and dangerous. But the hope for life overrides the fear of pain and the anxiety about the procedure. And the hope for life requires that the patient undergoes the painful process.
Friends, the prodigal has the same need. They need a new heart. Their current heart is damaged and diseased. Their situation will surely lead to death, perhaps not a physical death, but a spiritual death looms.. The enemy laughs and takes delight in the slow demise and the sure destination that a prodigal life assures. The process required to remedy this direction and destination means the prodigal has to die to themselves and be willing to allow the Lord to give them a new heart to remedy the damage that’s been done. It’s a painful process. It’s difficult to watch and we know what needs to happen. But it’s excruciating to see our son or daughter go through difficulty, pain, and suffering. But when we’ve done all we can and there is still no change, we need to step back and allow God to work.
Friends, are we willing to pray, “God, do what You must”?
Are we willing to pray, “God, do what you must”? That’s a hard prayer. It’s an anguished prayer. It’s a prayer of surrender, acknowledging that the rescue is beyond our ability to achieve. This prayer requires that we not interfere with what God chooses to do. We have to squelch the urge to rush in and rescue, to mitigate the painful consequences, to redeem the bad choices, to make it better, because really, we won’t make it better, we’ll only prolong the process. When we truly turn our son or daughter over to God to work as He wills, it is the ultimate act of trust. It’s trusting Him that He can parent them better than we can. It’s trusting that our God loves them more than we do. It’s trusting that His ways are higher than our ways and that He is the only One who can effect change and redeem the wayward heart. It requires full surrender on our part to achieve surrender in their heart.
It requires full surrender on our part to achieve surrender in their heart.
“God, do what you must, and help me to trust You.” It’s a prayer of surrender. Here’s another question…if we’re not willing to pray that prayer, are we fully surrendered to the Lord? Do we love Him more than we love our son or daughter? Do we trust Him enough? It requires some introspection into our own hearts and attitudes. It’s a peeling away of those things we’ve trusted other than the Lord. It’s a purifying of our own faith. We must be willing. But we can be honest with God, too, and tell Him how it scares us, because that prayer does bring fear of what may come. But, brothers and sisters, He is Lord of what may come. We need to rest in His goodness.
“God, do what you must, and help me to trust You.” Continue praying that prayer. Every moment, every day. Breathe it out. Remind yourself that God is Sovereign and He can do whatever He wills. He WILL do whatever He wills. We can either accept and support it, or fight it and be miserable. We must trust the Great Physician. He is able to give the prodigal a new heart and a surrendered spirit. Ezekiel 11:19 “I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh.”
“What do you think? If a man owns a hundred sheep, and one of them wanders away, will he not leave the ninety-nine on the hills and go to look for the one that wandered off? And if he finds it, truly I tell you, he is happier about that one sheep than about the ninety-nine that did not wander off. In the same way your Father in heaven is not willing that any of these little ones should perish. Matthew 18:12-14
Today, write out a prayer of surrender and trust to the God who is able to do more than we could ask or imagine. He spoke all of creation into existence. He subdues nations. He rules over every power and principality. He can turn a heart of stone into a heart of flesh, tender and surrendered to the Lord. Trust Him. Ask HIm to work mightily and to show you that He is working and moving. Remember, His timeline doesn’t mirror our own, but He is Lord of the clock, Lord of the calendar and Lord of the one He created… He loves the prodigal and longs to see them return. Trust Him.
God is not done working!
Pray without ceasing, friends.
A Prescription for Love
Mark 12:28-30 “One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?” “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’”
So much of life is performance based, isn’t it? We’re always evaluated by what we can say, do and accomplish. We get jobs based on our experience and skills. We gain friends and followers with our words and actions. We earn awards and recognition by our accomplishments. So, when it comes to our spiritual lives, it’s no wonder we often misunderstand what God expects of us and how we should love Him. So many ‘religions’ put emphasis on effort…man’s effort, in order to gain God’s love and approval.
What if…..what if we just followed Jesus’ words? What if we simply believed and obeyed? What if we removed all of the labels: “Baptist”…“Presbyterian”… “Methodist”, “teacher”, “preacher”, “member” and we were simply known as a “Christ-followers”? What if we simply loved Christ and, in loving Him, were able to let others see Him in and through us? It’s what Jesus calls us to do.
But the teachers of the law were very concerned about rules. They wanted to keep the law to a “T”. They missed the truth of the gospel in the midst of their obsessions with following rules. Too often, it seems, we do the same. We check boxes or sign statements that affirm we believe the right things. We do ‘all the things’ that demonstrate our commitment. But it becomes works based and we pat ourselves on the back for being so dedicated, so knowledgeable, so … ‘Christian’. Yet, we lack the very thing that God says is most important.
In Mark 12:30, Jesus told the teachers of the law what the most important commandment was- “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’”
He calls us to love Him. The Greek word used here is ‘agapaio’ (1) which means to welcome and entertain, to be fond of and to love dearly. It also means to be well-pleased and contented. Are we contented with Christ or do we seek out other people and things to fill us? Do we rely on our efforts and associations to prove our faith or are we so in love with Jesus that everything is an outpouring of that relationship?
Next, He says we should love with all of our heart, soul, mind and strength. Isn’t it curious that Jesus doesn’t talk about emotions? Far too often we equate ‘love’ with how we ‘feel’, but emotions are a by-product, not the source of love. Hence, if people are dependent on emotions, they fall in and out of love because their feelings change; they no longer ‘feel’ for that other the way they once did. Jesus says, first we must love Him with our heart- the seat and center of our physical and spiritual life, the inner man (2).
Then He calls us to love Him with our soul-the very breath of life He breathed into us when He created us. Our soul is that spiritual force that animates the body and is not dissolved by death. Ecclesiastes 3:11 says God has set eternity in the heart of man. Our soul is ‘built’ for eternity. It is the spiritual part of us that can truly connect with God (3). It is the part of us that is drawn to that very relationship with Him.
Then, Jesus asks us to love Him with our mind- the faculty of understanding, feeling, and desiring (4). When we love with our mind, we make a choice to intentionally choose to commit our lives to Jesus. It’s a rational decision based on our understanding of Who God is and how He loves us.
Finally, Jesus calls us to love Him with all of our strength. That is what the Greek defines as might, ability, force, to hold oneself to a thing, be joined to- to the extent of one’s ability (5). He wants us to cling to Him with all that is in us.
Do our sons and daughters love Jesus well? Or, do we hear them saying “I just don’t ‘feel’ close to the Lord.”? Today, let’s pray that they will love the Lord with all their heart- the center of their being, with all their soul- the very part of them that connects to eternity, with all of their mind- an intentional choice to pursue Christ, and with all of their strength- clinging to Jesus with every ounce of ability He provides.
“Father, You love us so well. Thank You for being constant, faithful, unshakeable and merciful to us in our weakness. I pray for (name) today. Help them to pursue You with all that they are and have. Remind them it’s not about ‘feelings’ but about faith, commitment, and a choice to follow Jesus with all they have and all they are. It’s about obedience-no matter what. Lord, I ask that You would work in (name)’s heart- the very center of who You created them to be. Lord, You knew them before You formed them in the womb. Stir in their heart a desire to live for You. Draw them, Lord, and speak to their soul. Cause (name) to thirst after You (Ps. 63:1). Give them a longing for more than what this temporary world can offer. Satisfy them with a love that is far deeper and more fulfilling than any they’ve ever known. Lord, give them a clear understanding that committing to and loving Jesus is what they were created to do. Help them to make the intentional, wise choice to follow in obedience and love You with all that they are. Give them strength to follow through on their commitment, especially when life gets hard. Lord, in those difficult times, we waver, we falter, we lose strength and we despair. Sometimes our frail hearts and minds can’t understand and embrace the enormity of Your love and of Your promises to us. We filter things through our own human experience and understanding- but You are so much more!! Lord, I pray that today, (name) would see and understand how much You love them. I pray they would catch a glimpse of the beauty and soul-embracing love of God. Help them be satisfied, as with the richest of foods and may their lips praise You (Ps 63:5). I pray this in Jesus’ name, amen.”
Pray without ceasing.