Giving Right Gifts
Any parent knows, our kids are not shy about telling us what they’d like to receive when it comes to birthdays, Christmas, or special occasions. When they were little, their ‘wants’ were often communicated by the toy catalog left conveniently on the table with items circled in sharpie on nearly every page. As they grew, their lists transformed to notes on the fridge and texts to our phones. Now they have apps that help them share their lists, and there’s the ever-convenient Amazon wish list is always handy. They’re always keen to let us know exactly what they really want.
And gift giving is a wonderful thing, isn’t it? It’s fun to receive them, but as a parent, we know how much joy we have in giving them! It’s so much fun to shop for someone we love and wrap up that special gift so that it’s beautifully presented. Then we wait in anticipation while the recipient eagerly opens the gift. But sometimes….sometimes we shop with OUR wants in mind, we choose things that we think they will like…or that we want them to like. Then, as the open their gift, we watch their eyes go from sparkling with anticipation to thinly veiled disappointment when they realize we didn’t follow the request. We didn’t give them the gift they really wanted, the thing they specifically asked for. We didn’t follow directions and the gift falls flat.
Don’t we do that with God, friends? We tend to offer him what we think He would like, giving Him the things we want to give rather than what He’s really asked us to offer. We make sacrifices according to our preferences, but we neglect to pay attention to what God asks of us. Then, we wonder why His response toward us is not what we hoped. We gave. We sacrificed. But we didn’t obey. Our gift wasn’t welcomed because it wasn’t what He asked us to give.
It’s important that our sons and daughters learn how to make right offerings and sacrifices to the Lord. Because it’s not about what we think the Lord will like, it’s very specifically about what He asks of us.
Genesis 4:2b-7 “Now Abel kept flocks, and Cain worked the soil. In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the soil as an offering to the Lord. And Abel also brought an offering—fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock. The Lord looked with favor on Abel and his offering, but on Cain and his offering he did not look with favor. So Cain was very angry, and his face was downcast.
Then the Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.”
Abel brought the right sacrifices. He did what the Lord commanded. He offered the best of his flock and shed blood to atone for his sin. Cain brought what he considered a good sacrifice, his best produce- the fruit of the land. Yet, it wasn’t what God commanded. It wasn’t acceptable. It was a poor substitution and unworthy. We know that Cain went on to kill his brother out of jealousy and then lie to God about the whole thing.
But we need to ask ourselves, how often do we bring to God what we consider our ‘best’ yet it isn’t what He asks for at all? We give what we want to give Him rather than what He requires.
Do you see? It wasn’t the quality of the fruit and produce Cain brought, it was his disobedience toward the Lord in not bringing what the Lord commanded. What God warned him of was exactly what happened, “if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.” The sin of jealousy and murder took over.
Later in Scripture, the same was repeated with King Saul when He didn’t obey God’s instructions to completely destroy the Amalekites.
“The Lord anointed you king over Israel. And he sent you on a mission, saying, ‘Go and completely destroy those wicked people, the Amalekites; wage war against them until you have wiped them out.’ Why did you not obey the Lord? Why did you pounce on the plunder and do evil in the eyes of the Lord?” “But I did obey the Lord,” Saul said. “I went on the mission the Lord assigned me. I completely destroyed the Amalekites and brought back Agag their king. The soldiers took sheep and cattle from the plunder, the best of what was devoted to God, in order to sacrifice them to the Lord your God at Gilgal.” 1 Samuel 15:17b-21
Saul did what HE thought best. And his actions impacted the nation of Israel and threatened their very survival. You see, years later, in the book of Esther, Haman, an official in the court of King Xerxes, tried to kill all of the Jews. He plotted to destroy them and wipe them from the earth. And who was Haman? He was a descendant of Agag (Esther 3:1), the very king Saul was told to kill and did not. Had it not been for God’s intervention through Esther and Mordecai, Israel would have been destroyed. Saul’s disobedience had serious repercussions. And his sacrifices meant nothing when they came from a heart that followed its own desires and not the Lord’s.
Our actions have consequences. We teach our sons and daughters that very lesson when they are children, that obedience is important. But as they grow into adulthood and gain their independence, the ease and desire to do what they want comes easily. Obedience to God can become secondary. We need to pray fervently that our sons and daughters will remember and practice the importance of obedience to God. We need to pray that they will understand what right sacrifices and offerings are that God requires and not lean on their own understanding for what is acceptable (Proverbs 3:5-6). We need to pray that they don’t ‘outgrow’ obedience.
The prophet Samuel called Saul to account for his selfish disobedience:
1 Samuel 15:22-23a ““Does the Lord delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as much as in obeying the Lord? To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams. For rebellion is like the sin of divination, and arrogance like the evil of idolatry.”
Ultimately, his disobedience led to Saul losing his role as King, and his life as well. God doesn’t want our attempts to win His forgiveness and approval after we do what we want. He wants us to obey him first and always. He desires our obedience. Let’s not try and ‘guess’ what God might want from us, instead, let’s dig into His word and learn what He calls us to do.
God promises blessings when we obey, and not just on us, but on our children and grandchildren:
Psalm 103:17-18 “But from everlasting to everlasting the Lord’s love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children’s children—with those who keep his covenant and remember to obey his precepts.”
Isn’t that a gift worth giving? Let’s commit to pursue obedience so that we can gift the Lord’s love and righteousness to our children’s children and leave a legacy of obedience and joy in following Jesus. Then, let’s pray that our sons and daughters do the same.
“Father, You call us to a life of obedience. How silly of us to think that our limited, flawed, selfish hearts would know better than You what You desire from us. Lord, when we veer off to our own ‘wish list’ of things we think You want from us, we selfishly pursue what our own hearts want rather than what You ask of us. We know the heart is deceitful above all things. Help us to do what is right because sin is crouching at the door, waiting for the opportunity to lure us away. Give us an Abel heart- one that desires to sacrifice what You ask and to obey your commands. Help us to pursue You with an undivided heart because double mindedness will certainly be our downfall. May our obedience to You be the evidence to others of our faith and our hope. “But if anyone obeys his word, love for God is truly made complete in them. This is how we know we are in him:” 1 John 2:5 Lord, help us to set a right example for our sons and daughters and let them do the same for their children. I pray that our family would have a Godly heritage that points others to Christ and brings honor and glory to Him. In Jesus’ name I pray, amen.”
Pray without ceasing.